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Our first new video sequence in 3 years goes reside at this time. (Yay for attending to RV internationally once more!)
You may watch the primary video on Youtube.
The vlog sequence continues with our theme of worldwide RV journey. We spent 30 days touring throughout the countryside of France, Switzerland, Italy, and Spain.
Just a few of the highlights & movies to return:
- Sharing how we journey & sleep in a small RV with two little youngsters (simply my greatest worry earlier than the journey)
- Our reactions to visiting a French nationwide park (once I consider France I consider the meals and the Paris tradition and never essentially the nationwide parks however WOW)
- The time we tried to go to one of many smallest nations in Europe however as a substitute obtained meals poisoning and I handed out
- How the Harvest Hosts program in France is EPIC and what wineries stays are like over there
- And far more
Whereas I’m excited to share extra of the movies on this sequence, I additionally wished to share the inspiration and get up name that led to us happening this journey within the first place.
What to do when desires change?
I not too long ago sat down and shared a studying listing of 100 of my high books. One I learn final 12 months was known as the Paradox of Alternative, and a lot of it has caught with me.
There’s a quote particularly I really like:
“We get what we are saying we would like, solely to find that what we would like doesn’t fulfill us to the diploma that we anticipate.”
The ebook goes on to speak about how we frequently are horrible at understanding what selections will really make us joyful. We base future selections off of information that’s largely skewed in our reminiscence.
For instance, in the case of a reminiscence of a weeklong trip — we’re extra prone to keep in mind the height second or the way it ended. Even when the week was boring however ended with a bang, we’d take into account it a large success. Our mind remembers the height and the tip and infrequently forgets how we felt throughout the vast majority of the week-long trip.
There have been much more examples, however the level is that we frequently don’t keep in mind with accuracy how one thing actually made us really feel. But, we use that flawed earlier knowledge to make future selections about what we’d need.
Nicely, earlier this summer season I obtained one thing I wished:
Time.
Over the past 12 months, we offered just a few companies and after a 12 months of vesting with my new employer, I give up.
On high {of professional} time, Alyssa and I gained some private time with some childcare assist (one thing else we’d been desperately looking for).
I keep in mind sitting down at my pc throughout our first day with childcare and feeling euphoric. This was it. This was the second we’d been ready for. We had time to breathe and dream up what we wish to do subsequent in life and enterprise.
Then I journaled some extra. Then I opened a ebook. Put that ebook down and obtained one other one. Left my pc to go exterior and do a mission I’d been laying aside. Got here again inside to do some extra “work” on my pc (had nothing to work on, most likely scrolled Twitter). Twenty minutes later I went to the gymnasium to shoot some baskets. Then it was 5 o’clock and time to select up Ellie from college.
This went on for just a few days.
Then every week handed.
I began leaving round two or three to go decide up Ellie as a result of I missed her and wished to hang around and play.
I began realizing this dream I’d positioned on a pedestal really was type of boring.
Or possibly I used to be boring, I don’t know.
A thought began to happen to me as I grappled with my boredom.
Perhaps the imaginative and prescient for our lives on this season appears to be like totally different than I’d thought. I’d imagined Alyssa and I might hand around in Colorado, possibly begin or purchase a brand new enterprise or discover a new mission.
However as I sat at my pc, nothing known as to me. I noticed there was no work I’d reasonably be doing greater than spending valuable time with our youngsters.
For years I’d executed a journaling follow the place I requested myself the query of, “If I may do something with my day, what would I do?”
And for the primary time in my life we really may reply that query in actuality and never in concept.
What I noticed is that if I may design my excellent day and decrease potential future remorse, it might appear like happening superior adventures and making recollections as a household.
In order that’s what we determined to do. We booked a a technique RV rental from Paris to Barcelona and spent the final month gallivanting across the European countryside consuming extra meals (and visiting extra playgrounds) than I ever thought attainable.
Typically I really feel prefer it’s not okay to vary my thoughts.
I like placing huge objectives on the horizon and pointing towards them and getting after it. However typically a brand new child comes and abruptly that dream appears much less vital. Or possibly you understand that your dream is definitely meh and also you don’t need it in any case.
I nonetheless love developing with huge concepts to pursue and chasing desires makes life fascinating and offers me hope.
However typically, desires change. That’s okay too.
If you wish to see what got here out of my life epiphany, you possibly can watch the primary vlog of our France RV journey 🙂